Parenting is one of the most challenging and rewarding experiences in life. However, we are not given a manual on how to parent, or understand the underlying issues during difficult times.
Understanding our attachment style, how we respond to distress and loss, to how we were parented, can be hugely beneficial in how we parent our own children.
Understanding ourselves and our upbringing, can give us insight in to how we can support the help support our child to become more resilient helping them learn in managing stress in life.
Parents often feel under pressure from society to be seen as able to cope, even when things feel difficult or distressing. This fear of being judged can often become a barrier in seeking the help that they need, and can make them feel more isolated.
It takes great strength, courage and personal insight to seek support, but this can be a turning point towards taking more control and feeling more confident.
There are a number of parenting courses available, which teach excellent strategies in how to better manage our children’s’ behaviours. These courses can be very useful in helping parents understand the importance of boundaries, and the way they manage the consequences of their children’s actions. Whilst strategies have an important part to play, they do not offer a reflective space to explore difficulties on a deeper and more meaningful level.
Our children communicate how they feel and what they are experiencing, through their behaviour within the family and the school environment. They may create anxiety in us, to communicate that they are feeling anxious or unhappy, and that they need help with what is wrong. Children rely on parents for support in dealing with difficulties and conflicts that are occurring.